Working out your Goals:
We’re all good at putting stuff off that we need or want to get done, so there are times we all need a helping hand when it comes to achieving our personal and professional goals.
For as long as I can remember I’ve believed in ‘being at your best’. Recently though, I was finding this more of a challenge. Being a busy working mum and juggling all the joys that come with a new baby and a toddler I wasn’t feeling (or looking) at my best.
Family and friends would testify that I’m a pretty motivated and determined girl – I love a challenge and have willpower of steel when I want to. But after a few lacklustre runs and realizing I was eating more of my toddlers left-overs than my own meals, I decided I couldn’t do it all on my own.
So I got myself a personal trainer. Working with him over the last few weeks has given me a fresh perspective on working out and achieving goals. We have sessions once a week, but it’s not enough to just trot along and work with him for an hour. I need to work hard and put in some sweat in my own time in order to get results. Just as attending a workshop on Influencing skills isn’t going to make you the world’s best influencer – you need to work at it to improve your skills.
As humans we’re programmed to avoid pain. Whilst this may stop us doing slightly crazy things sometimes, it can also limit us. In the past I’d do the exercises that I liked or found easy and steer well clear of those that hurt (stomach crunches anyone?) My trainer makes me tackle those areas that I find uncomfortable. He encourages me to do things that I never thought possible and his no-nonsense approach means that avoidance just isn’t an option with him.
Working with him has got me thinking about the coaching and training work that I do with individuals and companies. It’s also got me reflecting on how I approach the goals that I have in other areas of my life. Most of us when we leave a training session, or make a new commitment to ‘get fit’ or ‘sort out our finances’ know what we should be doing in theory. But it can be much more difficult to make it happen. How often do we keep shelving something because we don’t have time, or we’re not in the right frame of mind? I think we’d all benefit from having our very own personal trainer – the good news is it doesn’t have to cost a penny. Read the tips below to help you get going:
- Embrace the pain. What are you avoiding because it’s too difficult/challenging/painful? Is there a difficult conversation that you need to have? Or perhaps you really need to get on top of your finances. Be honest with yourself.
- Write down exactly what you want to achieve. The more defined your goal the easier it is to do.
- Find your trainer. You’re looking for a good role model. Someone who takes no nonsense from you and who you value and respect. They can be from work or home.
- Make a commitment. You may decide to have regular check in sessions with them to track your progress. Or if they aren’t always available when you need them ask yourself ‘what would they say to me right now’. (As I lie in bed at 6 AM pondering the snooze button versus going for a run I know what my trainer would say to me)
- Make the right choice. There will always be something more pleasurable or less painful to distract you from what you want to achieve. It’s about prioritising. No time to sort out your finances? Stay off Twitter and Facebook for the day and hey presto – there’s your time.
- What will you do if things go wrong or your progress slows down? Realizing my fitness had plateaued I needed to shake up my routine and try something different. What’s your shake up?
So what are you waiting for? There’s no better time than now. There is a Chinese proverb that says: “The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago – however the second best time to plant a tree is now”. Get to it!
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